Abortion is a rip-off (even when someone holds your hand).
Womens fashion and lifestyle magazine, Cosmopolitan has weighed in on the abortion debate with two articles in their June and July 2010 editions. The overall message is that abortion is a legitimate part of modern womanhood, that offers women empowerment and control,
given a little support. Life Network Australia asks if this is really true.
The June article is a somber depiction of one woman’s (‘Sarah’) experience of late term abortion. She underwent the abortion because of social pressures (she felt too young at 21), and pressure from her father who thought that a baby would bring shame on the family. Following the abortion, Sarah suffered from physical complications, and a raft of psychological after-effects associated with post traumatic stress.
Congratulations to Cosmo for telling it like it is. The article clearly demonstrates the pressure, lack of options, confusion, guilt and regret that characterises many women’s experience of abortion. Interestingly though, ‘Sarah’ states that she is “100% in favour of abortion”. This statement, interpreted as being in favour of a womans ‘right to choose’, seems out of place following the story which clearly suggests that she would have been better off had she continued with the pregnancy.
The article in the following edition discusses the role of ‘abortion buddies’, described as abortion doulas, in supporting women during an abortion procedure. These doulas (a distortion of the term used for those who support women during childbirth) provide information and emotional support during what is described as a traumatic experience. The underlying message is that women should support each other during their time of need – a kind of quiet solidarity among the sisterhood.
On the surface, it is difficult to pinpoint anything sinister about the two articles. They openly discuss the unpleasantness of abortion, and the benefits of supporting women through this difficult time. What could be wrong with that? In the context of a counselling newsletter – probably nothing. In the context of a fashion magazine, the result is dramatically different.
Sandwiched in between stories about relationship breakups, and squeezing pimples, the articles have a profoundly normalising effect. In this context, the articles assure women that abortion is a necessary part of womanhood, despite it’s unpleasantness. Two recent articles in Cleo magazine have a similar effect. Listed right up there next to period pain and bad hair days; just part of “the entire spectrum of pregnancy”.
Having admitted that abortion is unpleasant, Cosmo fails to ask the question, ‘is abortion really necessary?’ The answer must be ‘no!’. After all, if abortion is necessary, then there is no real choice.
Modern feminists seem to have fallen for the abortion lie – and submitted to the demand that they become men. They have been convinced that, because women can not fully participate equally in society (financially and socially, in Sarah’s case) if they bear their children, that they therefore must have the ‘right’ to give up that which is holding them back, their own children.
Common sense would suggest that if the problem is that childbearing is not valued by society, then surely the answer is to change social attitudes, not to give up childbearing. If having testicles was socially outlawed, we wouldn’t expect men to be campaigning for safe and legal castration! Such a solution hardly represents emancipation. Abortion is a means to rip women off.
The abortion doula in the Cosmo article, Lauren, describes the abortion ‘choice’ as “a huge victory”. She suggests that women will feel “empowered by a good experience”, and will “feel like they have control over their life and body”.
The contrast with Sarah’s story is telling. She reports that her sleep is interrupted by dreams about her baby. She has changed her profession because she is uncomfortable working with children now. She struggles with physical intimacy with her partner because of fear of another pregnancy. Physically, she suffers from bleeding and infection. None of these after-affects are unusual.
So much for feeling empowered and in control. (Oddly enough, Lauren also describes the abortion experience as “pretty traumatic”, one that “they don’t want to revisit”. This appears to be a much more accurate description.)
Having someone hold your hand during your abortion is a nice idea, but does little to address the real harm. Abortion robs women for years, if not for a lifetime. The doula won’t be there in the morning. She won’t be there while women navigate the increased risks of infertility, physical complications, suicide, substance abuse, and so on. Neither will the abortionist, or those that fought so hard to win the right to abort.
Consider a different scenario. Imagine for a moment that abortion is as unthinkable as slavery. The news of Sarah’s pregnancy is greeted with ‘what a shame’, or ‘this is going to take some adjusting’, or even some short term rejection from her family – at worst. There are no suggestions of giving up her child, no pressure to meet family expectations, no agonising ‘choice’. Just getting on with adjusting and preparing for the unplanned joy that she is entitled to.
Period pain and pimples are part of being a woman – abortion isn’t. Abortion is a poor second best, and women deserve better.


